I was totally challenged about comparing myself with others the other day when I read 2 Corinthians 10. Later that day I just happened to stumble across a blog where someone was talking about exactly the same thing! (Hat tip to Gina McClain) I like it when God does that!
The Apostle Paul was talking about a bunch of his peers that compared themselves with each other. They thought of as many things as they could to bring Paul and each other down so that others would think that they’re awesome. I wonder if you compare yourself with others. I wonder if you compare your ministry with others. If you don’t then you must be some kind of superhuman!
Can you identify with any of these things?
She’s way prettier then me… He is way better at sport… I wish our relationship was like theirs… We have way more kids on Sunday then them… There is no way I could get up and MC with the confidence they do… My kids LifeGroup is way more controlled then his… he must be doing something wrong… I can’t believe they said that, I’m way more mature!
We all want to look good. We want other people to think we’re awesome and have something that they want. There is something inside us that makes us feel good when others respect us for what we do.
Comparing ourselves with each other is a dodgy business. Here’s why:
• I makes you feel stink. When you compare what others have with what you don’t it makes you feel like you’re not good enough, or may like you’ve been ripped off.
• It makes you proud. There is a good type of pride (when you do your best at something and are glad and satisfied with it), and the bad type (when you think that you’re better then someone else). Pride is super dangerous. It’s what make Satan rebel against God. (Isaiah 14), and it’s what causes almost all our sin.
• You fail to see what is really going on for others. I bet they’ve put in the hard yards to get to where they are. Sure God might have blessed them but they will also have insecurities. And if you think you’re better then them, watch out, there will be a bunch of things that they have going for them that you might miss.
• You fail to recognise what God is doing in you. If you don’t feel good enough, remember all the other things that God is doing in your life. Look how far you’ve come! Look at the potential that God has placed in you! But at the same time, don’t think of yourself as better then you are! (Romans 12:3) Just because you’re rocking it in one area of your live doesn’t give you licence to think you’re better then others. There are miles and miles of growth yet in you. God hasn’t finished with you yet!
Check this out:
“But in all this comparing and grading and competing, they quite miss the point.” (2 Corinthians 10:12, Message)
And then this one…
“What you say about yourself means nothing in God’s work. It’s what God says about you that makes the difference.” 10:18
Spend some time waiting on God and allow Him to speak into your heart. What does He say about you? What does He like about you? What are you disappointed about? What areas do you feel not good enough in? Allow Him to refresh you and give you a confidence from the inside that overrides the fear of what others think.